How did I understand Narcissistic Abuse?
I never understood narcissism until I encountered it myself. I always thought it described a mean person, someone who ignores your feelings or has issues with addiction. I was mistaken until I met a covert narcissist. In my coaching sessions, I explain that there are five traits of a narcissist, which are:
Communal - a spiritual leader who instills fear in a community or manipulates them to worship this leader or healer.
Antagonists - Competitive and thinks they are superior to others, looking down on other people's goals and successes.
Overt - attention grabbers, flashy living, control, privileged, smart, better-than-others, and deceitful.
Malignant -Very dangerous and has anti-social behavior and psychopathy.
COVERT - They are the most dangerous, acting nice but hiding their true nature. They are overly generous, can't handle rejection or criticism, and often respond in a passive-aggressive way or give the silent treatment. They seek constant admiration, dream of greatness, build shallow relationships for attention, and lack empathy for those close to them, showing it only to strangers.
During my healing with Elena and Dr. Ramani, I faced narcissistic traits, especially from antagonists and overt narcissists in my life, including friends and a family member. I initially viewed their behavior as trauma from their actions, not realizing it was narcissism until recently. One of the most painful experiences was when someone I thought was kind and supportive suddenly discarded me, quickly replacing me with someone similar. This person gave me the silent treatment and left me feeling excluded, and I suspect I was being talked about negatively in their community. I also faced similar treatment from my own family, particularly my mother, who displayed narcissistic behavior and manipulated my siblings against me, leading to a smear campaign. This was incredibly distressing, and I would not wish it on anyone. Dr. Ramani and my new healer confirmed that such experiences can occur. This incident deeply affected my sense of identity and self-worth, but I reminded myself that I had come too far in my healing journey to be undermined by one person's actions.
I chose to heal by starting a spiritual journey with new healers and dedicating 30 minutes to an hour to meditation and prayer. I asked God for guidance about my choices and felt reassured that they were right. I was committed to finding the right support for my healing. My life improved significantly; my pain and fatigue disappeared, and new opportunities arose. I achieved my dream of having my own office. This journey was not a mistake; it was meant for my greater good, despite the pain I endured. With the help of Oliver Nino, Elena, and Dr. Ramani, I released negative energy. One day, I felt inspired to create helpful resources for others in my office. Since then, I have met many people who share similar experiences, leading to the creation of the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery & Coaching Program.
I created this program to help people recover from the pain and abuse I've faced throughout my life. After trying it myself, I was amazed at how quickly I healed. In the past, I might have isolated myself and given up on healing others, but I chose to persevere and use my experience to empower others. I’ve come to realize I am strong, worthy, and supported by my spirit guides.
Your spiritual journey can feel lonely, but remember, you are not alone. Your spirit guides are with you, and genuine people will come into your life. A true friend, family member, or partner will never dismiss your feelings. A supportive healer or loved one will be there for you, especially during difficult times. As a healer, I won't abandon anyone I care for, only you can choose when to move on. I respect that and will always be here for you.
Thank you for being part of Intertwine Healing. I want to understand your journey and help heal your pain. Sending you love, healing, light, peace, acceptance, and abundance.
-Intertwine
